No Shouting?

I read an article today  at The Star about ' No shouting ' and it's being calmness beyond your own self and to taking care of other people feelings.


Sometimes we tend to shout because we are angry of someone and we do not listen to our heart and therefore we shout.


As I reading this article, it's talk about : 


'When two people are angry with each other, their hearts distance. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other.
The angrier they are, the louder they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance'


'What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly. Why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small.
And when they love each other more, what happens? They do not speak but they only whisper and get close to each other in their love.
And finally they do not even need to whisper. They only look at each other, that's all. That how when two people are when they love with each other.'


Why do we shout, as I learned by own self knowledge, shouting is because to be self protection and doing it so it's because we think that we are right.
But without listen to other and refuse to accept the knowledge of other ideas as we get annoyed too, we are making ourselves distance with the each other. 


Seeing the article, it's remind me a lot of things in my life I've gone through.
Sometimes I would yell to my loved ones with ugly words as I got angry.
And recalling all that moments, it was hurt as I deeply know I loved them so much.
To make myself calm in another way, I should let them to talk and allowed myself to remain silent and calm. So that it won't provoke more bad conditions.It seems hard sometimes, but thinking rationally and praying to God to forgive the person that we angry.
So that our hearts willing to know that the distance become smaller and between us still not a big gap.